Minister Ministry

“The human contribution is the essential ingredient. It is only in the giving of oneself to others that we truly live.” ~ Ethel Percy Andrus, American Educator and first woman principal in California (1884-1967)

Situated strategically between the steam table of white meat and the vat of cream gravy stood my wife Teresa, her large metal spoon poised over mounds of mashed potatoes and stacks of stuffing. It was the day before Thanksgiving and the St. Monica Thanksgiving dinner and clothes boutique for the less fortunate was in final preparation mode. A kind of ordered chaos had descended on the place. You know you’ve got a large scale ministry event when people volunteer to feed the volunteers.

Gerard to her left and Ana to her right Teresa and her partners were serving up lunch for the first wave of 600 volunteers. Gerard ran his non-stop patter of “white meat or dark” while Ana swirled gravy onto anything that wasn’t moving.

I was in line, approaching like a supplicant, my white paper plate extended in both hands. Having made sure Gerard served me only my prescribed portion of dark meat I gave my wife a wink to assure I got extra stuffing. And, before I could give her direction, Ana covered everything on my plate with gravy.

As I turned to leave a heavily accented voice stopped me, “You- haven’t-a-come-to-my-a-table-yet.” Turning toward the voice I came face to face with a spectacled, grandmotherly countenance. Her nickname was Meemee (short for Immaculata no doubt). She looked like something out of a greeting card: flowered house dress, a crocheted sweater, wire-rimmed glasses and sensible lace up black shoes. “Where are you from,” I asked? “Napoli,” she replied rhythmically. “You-needa-some-sweet-a-potatoes.” I wasn’t sure if it was a question or a statement. “Sure,” I responded without thinking.

In the midst of the gravy, a generous portion of candied sweet potatoes landed on my plate. I turned to leave a second time. “You-don’t-a-have-a-no-pumpkin-pie.” After 30 plus years of Italian in-laws I knew better than to argue with Meemee over food or portions. Nothing makes an Italian happier than preparing food and serving it (unless it’s winning the world cup). “There’s no room on my plate,” I apologized. “That’s-a-no-problem,” Meemee said with a smile handing me a second plate. “You like serving food,” I observed. “I-a-do. But-it-would-be-a-better-if-a-I-had-a-little-glass-of-wine.” As I walked away I smiled to myself thinking they had put the perfect person in charge of that food table.

The contemporary church rests at a tipping point between the spiritual and the material worlds. God, in the unfolding of His creation, has blessed us with technology and management techniques to make us more efficient. When we apply these to the stewardship of time and talent (or what the secular world calls volunteerism) it gives us the ability to do more with less.

There is, however, an inherent danger here. Secular not-for-profit organizations often rationalize and frequently emotionalize their causes, but they rarely, if ever, spiritualize their efforts. We too, in our efforts to be more efficient and effective, run the risk of failing to nurture those who are of service to others…failing to spiritualize and even ritualize what we do. It is at this razor thin line of demarcation where simple volunteerism is delineated from ministry.

Like many things in our lives our efforts to do good works in the world more efficiently have resulted in our adopting business models of management. Volunteers are recruited, trained and managed just as we would recruit, train and manage employees. In this rush to be more efficient are we truly being more effective, or are we losing the human quality which distinguishes our efforts?

There is a difference between being an organization to which people donate their time and one which provides emotional and spiritual nourishment through active participation in ministry. Ministers are invited, formed and affirmed. Volunteers are recruited, trained and hopefully thanked.

We receive spiritual nourishment from being of service which nothing else can duplicate. It fills a hole in our soul no amount of possessions can. People need to be of service rather than simply providing service. We have an innate desire to do good works in the world. People need to do ministry more than we need people for ministry. Those of us who coordinate others (ministers or volunteers) should be constantly mindful of this need.

There is an indescribable mirth and excitement when people can sense they are making a difference in the lives of others. I saw it in the eyes of those who served me food that day. They had a sense of something “bigger than themselves”. It was not just about dishing out food, but about serving others.

Those of us who are the stewards of those who offer their time and talent for the betterment of the world have a responsibility to assure they are spiritually nourished and cared for. Often this means cherishing them and affirming them. Other times it means picking them up when things go horribly wrong. We are stewards of the stewards because sometimes ministering to the ministers is the ministry. Even if it means making sure they have an occasional “little glass of wine.”

Dear God: Help me to nourish the spirits of those who nourish the bodies and minds of others.

“If you want to build a ship, don't drum up people together to collect wood and don't assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.” ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery, French writer and aviator (1900-1944).

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