Friday, May 11, 2012

Tragic Gifts

“When you are falling from a mountain you may as well attempt to fly.” ~Babylon 5, American TV show (1993-1997)

The gymnasium was deathly quiet, though it was filled to the rafters with Junior and Senior high school students. Moments before, with the utterance of a single sentence, the air had gone out of the room, leaving behind only stunned silence.

It was the second day of the “Every 15 Minutes” program at Simi Valley High School, a program intended to make the students aware of the dangers of drunk driving.  The first day was a simulation of an alcohol-related accident involving students from the school. 

"Every 15 Minutes" is an educational experience which drives home the reality of the dangers associated with driving while impaired. The crash was staged, but the emotions were real!

Today was the wrap-up session. Everyone who had “died” or been injured in the simulation the day before had been miraculously brought back to life and fully restored.

The day before I had been shadowing a Police Chaplain. Today I was sitting in the back row of the guest seating on the gym floor, thinking about how physically unforgiving metal folding chairs could be.

The speaker was relating the story of her best friend – a friend whose “drinking career” had begun in high school and had gradually escalated even as she worked multiple jobs, pursued a successful career, and raised two children.

Things were going well for her friend. She was careful to mask her drinking habits and never drove herself home from parties. One morning however, after a party, she realized she had neglected to pick up her children. “She grabbed her keys and headed out the door.”

Suddenly pictures of a totaled SUV flashed on the screen. “My friend woke up in the hospital, not able to remember how she had gotten there,” the speaker said with tears streaming down her face. “She found out from the medical staff she had been in a serious accident,” she continued.  

“And then she found out another person had been killed in the accident – an accident she had caused.” The gym got quiet. The speaker choked back another sob. “I know this story about my friend is true,” she continued, speaking through the tears. “Because the friend I’ve been telling you about, the friend who drove drunk and killed another person… was me!” 

Every once in a while, when a Lottery Jackpot rises to the mega millions, I am inclined to buy some tickets. I justify my greed by telling myself, “With that much money I could really do some good in the world.” It’s easy to convince ourselves we could really make a difference if only we had more time, greater talent, or abundant treasure. 

It is difficult, perhaps nearly impossible, for any of us to believe that our brokenness or personal tragedies have value; that God could use the worst days of our lives, those moments of epic failure, for good.  

God does not cause them to happen, but in our darkest hours God still cares for us. He can take our humanity, our failures, and use them in ways completely beyond our expectation.  

This is not simply a question of a “comeback” or our surviving the event. There are many stories of those who have rebounded from failures or underdogs who became successes. But it takes a loving and involved Creator to use the worst parts of our lives to positively affect the lives of others. The speaker’s personal tragedy became a means by which the lives of others might be transformed.

No one can ever measure the number of lives changed or saved by the speaker on that day. The tragedies of life are not gifts from God, nor created by Him. We are the ones who create tragedy in the world. But what God does with those tragedies, through us, can become miracles.

Dear God: Remind me that no matter what, I am valuable to you.


“Behind every exquisite thing that existed, there was something tragic.” ~Oscar Wilde, Irish poet, dramatist, novelist and critic (1854-1900)

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